Methods for allowing children to learn and play without conflict.

To ensure that children can balance learning and play, parents need to approach it from multiple angles and adopt suitable strategies and methods. Below is a detailed introduction for you:
Expand knowledge based on interests
Playing is a child's nature. Parents can discover their child's interests in playthings and then expand knowledge around that interest, allowing the child to learn relevant knowledge while playing. For example, if a child is interested in toy cars, they can be guided to learn about various car models, performance structures, production origins, historical contributions, processing procedures, sales, transportation, assembly, and more, gradually learning about mechanics, organization, procurement, management, energy conservation, and economic development. Through this approach, children can not only have fun playing but also gain knowledge, cultivate expertise, and not fall behind in cultural knowledge.
Create a learning atmosphere
Parents set a good example
Adults should first show a love for reading and learning to set a good example for their children. Children are often influenced by their parents' behavior; if parents read and learn regularly, children are more likely to develop an interest in learning.
Hold regular family meetings.
Family meetings can be organized every two weeks, where everyone can share their learning and living situations, discuss family matters, etc. This helps to enhance communication and interaction among family members and allows children to feel the family's emphasis on learning and growth.
Hold a family reading club
We hold a family reading club once a week where everyone reads books and shares their insights. This not only enhances children's reading skills and knowledge but also strengthens emotional communication among family members.
Create learning opportunities
If conditions and time permit, take your children to visit science museums (such as those in Beijing, Shanghai, and provincial capital cities), museums, planetariums, libraries, and other places. These venues can provide children with rich learning resources and experiences, stimulating their interest in learning and desire to explore.
Enhance communication and listening
Listen more to the children
Listen carefully to the child's thoughts and feelings, allowing the child to feel respected and understood. This helps to establish a good parent-child relationship and enables parents to better understand the child's needs and confusion, thereby providing appropriate guidance and support.
Try written communication
You can communicate with children in writing through letters, notes, etc. This method sometimes allows children to think more seriously and express their ideas better than verbal communication, while also avoiding some conflicts that may arise during direct communication.
Cultivating children's self-control
Acceptance of behavior, giving up the struggle
When a child exhibits "waking fall" behavior, such as knowing they have an exam but still scrolling on their phone, parents should guide the child to accept their behavior and give up the struggle. It's like falling into a swamp; the harder you try, the deeper you sink. At this point, one should relax, temporarily lie flat, calm down, and then think of ways to jump out of the mire.
Desensitization therapy
Adopting a gradual approach to help children break away from decline. For example, if a child originally plays on their phone for two hours a day, a new goal could be set to only play for thirty minutes each weekend. The goals set should provide the child with a small sense of achievement every day, with each increase no more than 10%, so that the child can achieve it with a little effort, thereby gaining the confidence to continue. Parents can help the child create a schedule to be posted on the wall for easy supervision and execution.
Positive Feedback Loop
Whenever a child completes a learning task or learns a new piece of knowledge, it is important to provide a sense of ritual and positive feedback. You can give a small checkmark and allow the child to reward themselves with small treats, such as eating a piece of chocolate or watching their favorite show. This kind of positive psychological suggestion and self-feedback loop can help the child enter a positive cycle of overcoming setbacks, making them more disciplined and excellent.
Reasonable time management
Parents can weigh and coordinate their children's time with their own, make reasonable arrangements, and strictly implement them. Here is an example of a time schedule that can be referenced:
|Schedule|Specific Matters|
| ---- | ---- |
|Wake-up Time|Set a fixed wake-up time to develop good habits|
|Breakfast Time|Ensure that children receive adequate nutrition|
|School Time|Send the child to school on time|
|Child's School Time|Focusing on School Learning|
|Children's lunch and nap time|Ensure that children have enough rest|
|Child's afternoon school time|Continue studying|
|Children play after school until 1 hour after dinner|During this time, let the children play to relieve learning pressure|
|After playing|focus on homework time, complete the day's learning tasks|
|Bedtime|Ensure that children have sufficient sleep time|

By arranging time in this way, children can develop good habits, allowing them to both play well and study well.
By using learning games
You can use some tools or activities that combine learning and gaming functions to help children learn knowledge through play. For example, the "Du Fu Teaches Idioms" mini-program is a guessing game that involves deducing a character from two idioms. The gameplay is simple and can test the depth of children's idiom vocabulary, allowing them to learn idioms while playing the game.